What drew me to D/s? Fear of rejection

One of the aspects of ADHD I wish I had known about earlier is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, or RSD for short. Basically it means that rejection hits us like a ton of bricks, and in my case can trigger major anxiety.

My experiences getting a vasectomy

A few days ago there was talk about vasectomies again on my timeline, partially because of recent developments on US abortion law. I mentioned that I had meant to write about my experiences, so here goes.

Be Brave

In my list of recent insights, I included “Be Brave”. This one has special meaning to me.

Things I wished I knew a decade ago

I’m feeling a bit under the weather with the flu, and with my body unable to do much my mind set to wandering. It revisited a question a friend asked me recently:

I don’t love any men

So yeah, showerthoughts they call it. That moment when you just let your brain run where it will and a realisation hits you like a ton of bricks.

The Dark Side of Daddy

It took me years to come to terms with the word “Daddy”. It felt weird and incestuous to me, and for a long time I described myself as a nurturing dominant instead.

Toxic stoicism

On my Fetlife timeline today there was a post by a woman asking for help with a troublesome new partner of her ex.

Pumped up kicks

“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks… Better run better run, outrun my bullets.”