What drew me to D/s? Fear of rejection

One of the aspects of ADHD I wish I had known about earlier is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, or RSD for short. Basically it means that rejection hits us like a ton of bricks, and in my case can trigger major anxiety.

My experiences getting a vasectomy

A few days ago there was talk about vasectomies again on my timeline, partially because of recent developments on US abortion law. I mentioned that I had meant to write about my experiences, so here goes.

On the proper care and feeding of Fucktoys

Fucktoys (homo ludicrum futuetum) are a delightful subspecies of human that can bring an owner much joy and pleasure if well cared for.

Be Brave

In my list of recent insights, I included “Be Brave”. This one has special meaning to me.

Things I wished I knew a decade ago

I’m feeling a bit under the weather with the flu, and with my body unable to do much my mind set to wandering. It revisited a question a friend asked me recently:

I don’t love any men

So yeah, showerthoughts they call it. That moment when you just let your brain run where it will and a realisation hits you like a ton of bricks.

I asked about my consent violations…

… and I’d like to share my experiences.

The Dark Side of Daddy

It took me years to come to terms with the word “Daddy”. It felt weird and incestuous to me, and for a long time I described myself as a nurturing dominant instead.

Toxic stoicism

On my Fetlife timeline today there was a post by a woman asking for help with a troublesome new partner of her ex.

Pumped up kicks

“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks… Better run better run, outrun my bullets.”